The Marriage Show

I few months ago my wife & I attended "The Marriage Show" at Summit Church in Orlando with some friends.  A mix between the Tonight Show & Dr. Phil, "The Marriage Show" uses music, a special guest, scripture, audience games, and a butt load of humor to give couples a night of fun in addition to tools to make their marriage more fulfilling.  And, since it's at Summit, you get to eat & drink in the sanctuary.  How cool is that?

The show is based upon 7 Fundamentals for a Healthy Marriage and the host of the show, James Raffenaud stresses them throughout.

1. God is in charge.
2. Make it a priority ("it" is your marriage).
3. Communication matters.
4. It's not about you.
5. Sex and romance, both are important.
6. Never quit.
7. Adapt to change.

How great is this show?  I cry (for happy reasons) through most of it and when he issued the 7 Day Challenge - 7 straight day of having sex - I about wet my pants. Now I'm Pavlov's dog.  I can't stop going to this deal.

The Original Marriage Show promo. from James Raffenaud on Vimeo.

Now the website is up.  It includes some video, a blog, and rumor has it, a podcast soon will be available.  In addition, you can follow James on Twitter and get marriage tips straight to your cell phone.

If you're in Orlando, you'll definitely want to check it out in person.  For those of you elsewhere, bookmark the website & check back often.

What's More Valuable - Your Cell Phone or Your Virginity?

Jeremy Berg, a youth pastor from Minnesota, makes a bold statement during a conversation with a friend in a post at youthworker.com.

With these thoughts floating around in my head, I blurted out a provocative statement to my pastor friend across the table that struck us both as...well...something worth pondering. I said: "Many teens will give up their virginity easier than they'll give up their cell phone."

Huh, that's an interesting observation.

They both have to do with connectedness, with relationships.  Giving up your cell phone takes away your connection with others while giving up your virginity has to do with drawing close to someone.  It seems to me both illustrate the desire we have to be connected and know people intimately.  It's a God-given desire.

I don't disagree with Jeremy.  He makes a good point.  It does make me think, however.

1. What can we be doing to help our teens feel connected better with those around them?  Are we helping them connect both with and without technology?
2. What can we do to help them distinguish between appropriate levels of connection?  How can we help them properly live within good, authentic, Godly relationships?

Ironically, I think the answer to both is good communication & connectedness.  When we take kids to Young Life camp, we take their cell phones away.  It is hardly a struggle anymore, because we do a good job of communicating the reasons and the benefits.  More often than not, they are excited to have a week without being tied down to their mobile networks.  Of course, we are providing them with tons of opportunities to be connected face-to-face throughout the week - modeling good community relationships.

Likewise, talking and talking and talking to them about the benefits of saving yourself (or re-saving yourself) for marriage is key.  And, not just for the sake of saving yourself, but with the explanation that sin always impacts other people - drawing it back to connectedness.  If we can help kids see how the choices they make affects others in the community they care about - even in the future - we will be helping them tremendously.

On a side note, but somewhat related.  Did you catch the Newsweek piece called Unattainable Beauty?  Good grief.  It's no wonder our kids have such a messed up view of how we should look.